In my own healing journey this phase hit me like a truck. I was this social person. I loved being out. I loved being around people. Then suddenly, it was the last thing I wanted. This is the isolation part of healing. It’s when we allow the world and it’s business to break from our reality. It’s when our soul is calling us to come home, to pay attention, to finally listen. For me this period lasted almost a year. It was difficult to explain to friends and family. It’s hard to go through something you can’t put words to. This is an incredibly transformative part of the journey where we reconnect with ourselves. We need this to re-emerge as our future self. We need this silence. We need this rest. We need to finally break from the stream of thoughts of others we have internalized and learn our own. But it’s scary. And we live in a culture that doesn’t speak to it. I hope to normalize this process because I didn’t have that on my spiritual path. If you’re there, I see you. You are becoming #selfhealers
Layer by layer, we wear various emotions, which form our identity. In order to remember who we think we are, we have to re-create the same experiences to reaffirm our personality and the corresponding emotions. As an identity, we become attached to our external world by identifying with everyone and everything, in order to remind us of how we want to project ourselves to the world. How we appear becomes the facade of the personality, which relies on the external world to remember who it is as a “somebody.” But that is different from who we are-how we feel-without the stimulation of our outer reality: Feelings of shame and anger, fear of death and uncertainty related to the loss of a loved one or even a pet. A preoccupation with thoughts of not having the right body type in order to look a certain way to the world. These kinds of feelings are what we want to conceal. Who we truly are, the real self, is hiding behind the image we are projecting. We can’t face exposing that self to the world, so we pretend to be someone else. We create a set of memorized automatic programs that work to cover the vulnerable parts of us. Essentially, we lie about who we are because we know that societal norms do not have room for that person. That is the “nobody.” That is the person whom we doubt others will like and accept...
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Drop a “❤️” and TAG 2 people who need to see this! I have personally struggled with this for most of my life because I was very numb. I was cutoff to my heart because I had closed my heart as a result of all of the trauma I experienced. When I started healing myself, my heart slowly began opening back up. It was a slow and grueling process but very worth it. What has been your experience with emotionally unavailable people? Leave a comment below! Sending you infinite love! ♥️🙌
I think we’re too hard on ourselves. We think we’ve wasted time, or think if only we’d known sooner. But the truth is, it couldn’t be any other way. It had to take this time for a lesson within to be learned, for an internal growth to have formed. So don’t worry, everything is right on time. Love Phoebe 🙏🏼 ps. I’ve had a few questions about shipping this late close to Christmas- to my UK folks- it’s stil possible as I’m based in the Uk! Everywhere else is not possible anymore unless express shipping. 💕😘🙈 Check out the link in my @lost_nowhere bio for more or dm me with any questions! #lostnowhere
Because most of us were raised with in codependency (lack of clear boundaries, lack of true autonomy) our conditioning leads us to abandon ourselves to receive love. We dismiss our needs, + our true nature because we believe we are responsible for the emotional states of those around us. And, because most of us were never fully seen or heard for who we truly are, on an unconscious level we do not believe we deserve this from the people in our lives. We feel unworthy of being loved as our whole self. We fear that if someone sees our shadow, meets our ego, or sees the child-like part of us, they’ll run. Our panic programming comes up, so we become a version of ourselves we believe we need to be. And it’s this adaptation, that blocks us from authentic love. Authentic love, a love where there is no self betrayal is messy. It’s disappointing. Egos flare up. Triggers happen. We feel selfish and unsure of what’s “yours” and what’s “mine.” And we mourn the loss of the idea that this human being can save us from ourselves. Authentic love takes courage to allow a person to explore, to do them, to unravel their own conditioning while patiently holding a safe space to return to. It requires trust. And an inner knowing that we can fully express all the parts of self even if this makes someone uncomfortable, unsure, or fearful. Authentic love is not about completion. Or a “better half.” Or undying devotion. It’s a peaceful energy that says: I want you as you are. I want to raise my own level of consciousness so I can allow you to reclaim your true self. This is the greatest gift we can give another person #selfhealers
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