“My journey can be summarized by one sentence: from the hell of unconsciousness to consciousness. . Throughout my whole life i always felt like a misfit, like something was wrong with me but I chose to shut up; scared to decieve the people around me. . At 15 I found alcohol, I could anesthetize my feelings and the hyper-sensibility i couldn’t bare. I simply couldnt cope with the world i was living in. I saw death many times, my dads, friends, mine... I was raped ... alcohol was my way to run away from reality. . The 31st of March 2015, at 24 years old, I Opened my eyes to my addiction and started the journey of discovering who i really was. Today i am proud to announce my first book to be published, a book about my recovery, to give hope to other addicts. . I am also an "expert patient", dedicating my new life to helping addicts and spreading the awareness. I am happy with the new me, I started to love myself and all my choices are fully conscious! Love from Paris” @mulliezbaptiste . Thank you for sharing you POWERFUL story with us. Let us celebrate the healing of this amazing individual!!! 🙏 #wedorecover
This is my hair and myself being the truest versions of themselves. I was inspired by a friend of mine (@anewman_rg) to start the curly girl method (CGM) after she shared about it on her social feed. Basically, I am trying to live with my hair in its natural state and not use hot tools on it or harsh hair products - which is wild, because my whole life I have straightened my hair & wished for straight hair. But, on this sobriety journey, I have wanted to live more free. I realize that my hair and my obsession with changing it has led me to be unfree in many ways. For example, not swimming in oceans, not wanting to be in the rain, not diving into lakes, cursing the humidity - anything that would mess up my straight hair. In doing this, I have missed out on joy & adventures & the freedom to live. I’ve also stopped dying my hair. It’s been 16 months. Obviously, the beautiful Mia of @thesoberglow has been a huge inspo to me and I’ve also loved watching @tammisalas do the same. Both of these ways of life are hard to commit to - forever. Because that feels really scary. Kind of like committing to the forever of not drinking (or doing drugs). So guess what? I’m taking it one day at a time. And I have fears. Like, what if Austin leaves me because he thinks I look too old due to my gray strands? Which is an irrational fear, but it’s still a thought that has crossed my mind. I also watched this movie called “nappily ever after.” It’s about a woman who finds freedom & confidence in her natural hair & although it was a bit cheesy, it inspired me. It gave me hope. I’m not saying I am completely un-masked as I get Botox and eyelash extensions and I don’t know if I will ever want to give up either of those things. But, it feels good and true and honest for me to start here, to dig deeper, to say F you to (some of) America’s beauty standards. To live a bit more free. P.S - this is not a
My name is Kyle Quilausing. “I” was a 98lb crystal meth addict. “I” was Hawaii’s Most Wanted. “I” escaped from HCCC and “I” became a fugitive. “I” did 10 years in a high custody prison. “I” spent 3 of those 10 years isolated in the “hole”. “I” did my time. “I” am now a motivational speaker and I speak of choices.”I” spoke to many of schools, thousands of kids and “I” do this for free. “I” give back to the community that “I” once destroyed. “I” am SOBER and “I” am free from grip that crystal meth had on me.
My drug addiction landed me in some dangerous places in search of my next fix. On December 23rd, 2016 I was robbed in a hotel room by a girl I knew. She stabbed me in the side of the head over money. The hotel room was packed but everyone left me there. When I finally got to the hospital they didn’t believe I would make it through the night. I pulled through with 13 staples in my head. Half my face was sagging and I was very confused about why this happened to me. It took six months to heal. I suffer from memory loss, lightheadedness, and PTSD. I walked out of the hospital with nothing but the clothes on my back. I had a decision to make. Stay the same or change everything? I made a decision to change. Now, I have been sober for three years. - so amazing ❤️❤️❤️☝️☝️☝️ 📲 Recovery is a journey. It's not pass or fail. To help you move forward each day, I'll send you BuddyMail - a free daily email that includes a bite size challenge that will help you stay motivated, learn skills, and prevent or recover from relapse. All you have to do is complete the challenges and things will start to improve for you. Link in our bio to sign up free today!✅👍
Dr. John Kelly and his colleagues at @recoveryanswers created an “Addictionary” - a dictionary that helps us destigmatize our language around substance use. They found the terms "drug abuse/abuser" are stigmatizing because they put people who use substances in the same category as people who commit sexual and physical abuse. "Abuse" implies willful misconduct rather than acknowledging the presence of a disorder. And as Dr. Kelly discusses (check out his interview on the Broken Brain podcast with @dhrupurohit ) the stigmatization of substance use was intentional. The War on Drugs, introduced by the Nixon campaign (which disproportionately targeted black folks and hippies who were against the war) aimed to reduce drug use behaviors thru stigmatization and threat of punishment. But this approach backfired. Stigmatization doesn't reduce drug use - it just prevents people from seeking treatment due to shame. According to Dr. Kelly, 22 million people in the US have a substance use disorder and only 2 million seek treatment. As community members (and even us mental health therapists) we need to be mindful of how our language can inadvertently harm others by perpetuating stigma. Unfortunately, I hear the terms "drug abuse" still being used in the mental health field All. The. Time. The “Addictionary” suggests we use person-first language. For example, rather than describing someone as a “drug abuser,” a "drugie", a "crackhead", a "pothead", or even an "addict", use the more medically accurate term, “a person with, or suffering from, addiction or substance use disorder.” Understanding that addiction is a trauma response helps us take on a more compassionate perspective and more compassionate language.
Double tap the post if your sober today. Also drop your sober date in the comments. Show others what possible. ——————————— Recovery is a journey. It's not pass or fail. To help you move forward each day, I'll send you BuddyMail - a free daily email that includes a bite size challenge that will help you stay motivated, learn skills, and prevent or recover from relapse. All you have to do is complete the challenges and things will start to improve for you. Link in my bio to sign up free! Powered by @yoursoberbuddy
Today I celebrate 13 YEARS OF SOBRIETY! This has been one of the hardest years for me. Life has been extra lifey and it has been a year of NO! My income was slashed in half, I fell behind on my taxes, I’ve been trying to have a baby for over a year now, and I have watched EVERYONE get pregnant that was trying and my heart has been shattered every single month. I am happy for them OBVIOUSLY, but with each joy of sharing in their moments there have been instances where I have thrown things, laughed hysterically like the Joker, screamed into pillows, and slipped into severe depression. My self esteem has been smashed, my self worth has been questionable, and it has been a year of not making the cheerleading squad. HOWEVER!!!! This year has shown me how strong and resilient I can be. Every no has been an opportunity to get closer to myself, my husband, my friends, and especially God. Sobriety doesn’t promise a bridge to wealth and rainbows. It promises LIVING. I have never felt more alive! I have never been a more supportive friend. I have never been as open minded. The only promise we have is the unknown, and no control of the outcome. Recovery has allowed me to move through this year with grace and dignity. It has forced me to trust those around me and God. At the end of the day ALL OF MY NEEDS HAVE BEEN MET, and every no is preparing me for the YES! For all of my recovery family out there, we’ve got this. More will be revealed, and we are ALIVE! Rejoice in the ability to show up one day at a time without giving up. There is a loving God that has our back, especially when we feel like God isn’t there. Despite the let downs I have remained willing and am taking these “NO’s” as opportunities to be the best friend, wife, daughter and future mother that I can be! I love you all! Thank you God! #recoveryworks#keepinit100#sober#addiction#missusa#messusa#recovery
Nine Years Sober. Nine years ago today, I walked out of the prison of addiction after fifteen years of bondage. For many years, the thoughts of not drinking for a week seemed beyond me and when my alcoholism really took over, I couldn't conceive of going a single day without a drink. Towards the end, I drank from when I first got up in the morning until I went to bed at night. My life was filled with darkness and despair. Getting out would take a miracle. I used to look at people who were two or three or ten or even fifteen years sober and think, WOW! How did they do it? With nine years under my belt I know how: by being in a loving, supportive community and taking one step and a time, one day at a time.These past nine years have simply been 3,285 of those days put together. 3,285 days of getting up each morning and choosing to live in freedom. Some days are easier than others but to quote a Pearl Jam tune, "I faced it, a life wasted, and I'm never going back again." - I've said it before and I'll say it again, as long as there is breath in your lungs, there's hope. Addiction—whether it's to drugs, alcohol, porn, food, TV, or gambling—CANNOT help us overcome anxiety, fear, stress, or fill whatever void exists within us. Our dependance on them only serves to pour fuel on the burning embers of the discontent in our souls. Also, addiction thrives in silence and shame. If you're trapped in a cycle of destructiveness, today is the day to break the chains and walk out the door to freedom. Talk to someone, visit your doctor, call a support group, but do NOT suffer in silence. It'll be a bumpy road for sure, but I guarantee you it'll lead to destinations in life you never even dreamed possible. Don't give up on the miracle, it may just happen today! #sobriety#addiction#soberlife#soberliving
Some of us are a bit more like this sweet pup than we’d like to admit. We tend to plow ahead as if everything is fine when it really isn’t. See if any of these ring a bell for you: * 🤒 You show up for work sick, and your coworkers beg you to go home. * 😴 You fall asleep sending emails or doing other tasks. * 😔 You wear sunglasses to hide your tear-stained eyes. * 😡 You spend time schmoozing with someone you’re mad at. First things first, be careful not to make personal problems that are systemic in nature. * 🤒 In a hyper-capitalist society, workplaces convey to employees that they are replaceable, creating the conditions for working while ill. * 😴 Our culture confounds busyness with self-worth, creating the conditions for treating exhaustion like a status symbol. * 😔 Our culture judges sadness as weakness, making it nearly impossible for us to honor our pain. * 😡 Our world has yet to value relationship education, so most of us have zero clue what to do with our anger besides stuff it down or blow up (Side note: Sadly, wholehearted relationship education for young people remains rare which is why my Marriage 101 class at Northwestern has been featured on 5 continents...) So our culture sets us up to act like this doggie, pretending like we can carry on when we clearly need to make a change. ——— Maybe you learned to paper over your pain as you were growing up. When a family system is struggling with addiction for example, homeostasis is maintained by everyone acting like they don’t see what they see, they don’t feel what they feel, and they don’t know what they know. Do that for long enough and you stop even remembering how to identify what’s going on inside of you. The beautiful part about being alive is you can always come home to yourself. * You can learn to recognize that you are squishing your big fuzzy body onto a teeny tiny cushion. * You can cultivate relationships that celebrate when you speak up without fear:
Dysfunctional old programming I’m healing from as I work on my codependency issues: People who are alone or single are sad. This was pounded into me as a young adult-there was a family member on my ex husband’s side I was close to who’d constantly remark how she felt bad for “old maids” because they were single and tell how her great grandmother’s husband cheated on her and she died all alone. When my husband had multiple affairs, on his last one, which was highly deceitful, destructive and abusive to me and to our children, she remarked to one of our kids that my husband just “couldn’t be alone.” But I realize now she gave him a pass because her own woundedness meant she couldn’t be alone either. Because if she could be alone herself she wouldn’t have rationalized his abuse, she would have empowered him to make healthier choices. She would have questioned his predatory ways of dating someone younger than his children and the damage he was doing to his relationships and his family. She would have helped him empower himself to know if he wanted a divorce he didn’t need to lie and cheat, he could communicate directly. She would have set an example on how to deal with fears and loneliness, instead of succumbing to them. And if she were really spiritually awakened she would have taught him how beautiful being alone can be; on how to be the right partner instead of always searching for the perfect one and chasing illusions, to sit with his loneliness to see what it was saying to him: What could it teach him? How could it help him grow? But because I believe she has a very strong codependency addiction herself she projected her weakness onto him. Because she couldn’t have done it herself. Because she herself stayed in an abusive marriage riddled with infidelity damaging herself and her children. And I know that my own codependency addiction kept me enslaved to a marriage and
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You were brainwashed, so to speak. I’m here to educate, not to bash, and to help you achieve awareness to break free of this dysfunctional pattern that will continue with other people unless you break it on your own. Brainwashing is the suspension of a reality and the replacement of a fabricated one. Narcissists do this through love bombing and gaslighting. You were not aware that this was happening to you, even more so if they are your parent. The love bombing stage overwhelmed our critical mind, our logic and reasoning and had us functioning in our emotional one instead. In order to stay engaged, we had to compensate by overriding our critical mind and repressing/denying reality. We had to ignore all the red flags to make the story with them work. You heal by gaining awareness and stepping back. It’s critical you not engage or have extremely limited contact if you do. Think of them as a bottle of liquor, every time you use it you get drunk. Every time you engage you will get sucked back into the illusion, and your mind will be altered. We heal by catching ourselves before we start to crossover from our reality which is hard to accept into their reality which is like being drugged. You crossover even at no contact in the beginning stages just as you would withdrawing from any drug. At first this reframing may be constant, like minute by minute, choosing a reality, and many times you may not realize you’re back in the illusion again. It’s like being dunked and coming up for air: in/out, in/out, consciousness/unconsciousness. As you straddle two realities the cognitive dissonance is painful, but the more you keep shifting your mind to stay in reality the more you come out of the illusion. As you
I just posted PART 1 of my Collection Series! This video will focus on All of my remaining trail trucks.. so sit back, get comfortable .. and have a look at what addiction REALLY looks like! #rcsparksstudio#addiction#tinytrucks