Your journey has a few defining characteristics. First, you’ll need to be confident in your abilities; your abilities to show up, your abilities to try your best, your abilities to believe you’re worthy, and your abilities to learn your craft or several crafts. Second, no matter what level of talent you have, you need to stay humble and put in the time. Everything takes time regardless of what you see from the results of other individuals. Humility and humbleness actually keep you grounded in the work that propels you to vast results. Third, your rise is all a test. Every now and then you’ll have to go back to the basics cause there’s gold found in some of those routines. Its also a good idea to discover whatever routines or blend of routines bring you to a state of being you’re looking for. That state of being will help you navigate the long game. Fourth, all of this is about character building regardless of the wealth you create, or the body you build or the accolades you receive. These things are merely bonuses to how you show up in this world and the character you exhibit. Things will never fulfill you unless you find your inner peace and happiness. As you embrace a new year and a new decade, decide for yourself on creating what you want, do the work, build the talent or skillset, focus on the process and not social media “outcomes” of other people and drive your lane so hard that you’ll wake up in 2030 with your legacy.
Throwing it back to an older meal prep!! This meal prep is packed with fiber and protein! This was a great, quick and easy set up! Perfect for those busy weekends where you have absolutely no time to cook, but you don’t want to fall off track! Head over to the link in my bio to get the shopping lists and meal prep break down.
If there’s FOMO (fear of missing out) to be had, make sure it’s the fear of staying the same and not adapting to change. Great video interview of Jay-Z by Zane Lowe on the state of industry, new media, you get generations dictating new business paradigms and more.
There is definitely an element ( or in some cases an avalanche ) of discomfort when you make the decision to “do the work” lifting the lid on what has kept you stuck, suffering, discontented or feeling damaged ....not living your life authentically, can be scary. . . To actually walk towards your souls desires, to begin healing, discovering and reconnecting, there needs to be honesty (that can be an ouch) The owning of your stuff!! . . We create or believe many stories to protect ourselves and our choices.. basically we are creatures of comfort and avoid change, but if we do decide to take the step to do the healing work.. once you have acknowledged and owned the truth...well then you need to do something about it. If you don’t -then your unhappiness, ready.. (even bigger ouch) is your own fault. . . I have had people come and start working with me, only to bow out ... then a few months later come back and roll their sleeves up and get back to it. . . It’s ok. Totally ok. I actually did the same. Accountability can be brutal! You need to be ready. . . It takes courage to change. It’s such a responsibility- To be in charge of outcomes!! and to be fair, usually when we arrive at which ever modality of therapy we have chosen, we aren’t really match fit, often feeling at our weakest. . . That’s why kindness and compassion to yourself is so important. . . I’m not a “You’ve got this type” of person because a lot of the time my clients DO NOT feel like they have “this” and it can feel minimising to say that. .most of the time at the start, we don’t even know what “this” is! . . So just to take a little bite of bravery- A tiny teensy step. That’s ok. It’s actually awesome. . . For you that may look like . . •Journaling 10 mins a day . •Eating a salad . •Practicing saying no in the mirror . • Walking in nature . • Telling someone you trust a truth about you. . •Reminiscing with your partner about when you first met. . . •
Repurposed kitchen scraps or edible garden? 🌱 I’ve been showing the kids how you can regrow certain vegetables with just a little tray of water and a spot near a window. 🥕 This is about 1 week of progress and it’s so fun to watch it come alive. Especially when there’s a blizzard outside. Not only is this a fun science experiment, but you can better believe I’ll be cooking these little shoots. 🌱🌱 Green onion, Napa cabbage, onion and garlic are all delicious in a stir-fry or fried rice. Baby beet greens and celery shoots go in salads and carrot tops (when they grow more!) can be made into pesto. Any another good ideas, friends? 🍠 I’m also trying to sprout sweet potato but not having much luck. 🤔 Just thought I’d share what’s making me smile these days as we hold on until spring. credits via @aimeebourque
You wanna stop caring about outside bullshit and other people’s opinions? Start having a relationship with yourself. Once you become busy with the details that are your life, you will begin to expand automatically and you won’t have time to even consider worrying about anything that’s not for you. Especially because you’ll be too busy creating your own life. IIf you’re finding that you have a lot of pressure on yourself, that you’re beating yourself up, that you’re chasing too much, or that you’re overwhelmed by everything and everyone, then I urge you to pull back a little bit so you can see the bigger picture. The more I spent ample time with myself on all the details I avoided for so long, the more the anxiousness of where I thought I needed to be went away. I quickly started noticing all the outside noise drown out and I became more focused and clear on my own direction. You’re overwhelmed because you’re doing too much and you’re potentially caring about things that don’t matter. Start with your own self-care and watch everything else start to become smaller.
There's a message I've seen floating around a lot this year that I need to speak to. There are various incarnations, but the message essentially boils down to: People's reactions to you are *always* about them, not you. Um exqueeze me?? Do I think that this is *sometimes* the case? Absolutely. 100% 100% of some of the time. The message that's implied (and in some instances explicitly stated) is that when people treat us poorly or present unfavorable characterizations of us, that it *always* has to do with their own projections, past trauma, conditioning, etc. The advice often given is that we should *never* take this personally, and to remember that what we're receiving from people is merely an indication the work they need to do on themselves, and a reflection of the other person's "stuff" (to use a clinical term). Does anyone else find this problematic? Does anyone else think this is a slippery slope into not being accountable for anything we do or say ever? Does anyone else see how in the wrong hands this could be used to gaslight a person who is trying to hold somebody accountable for harmful or abusive behavior? As always, the problem is when this type of idea is presented without any nuance, context, or disclaimers. I find this line of thinking incredibly dangerous when taken as an absolute. If we believe this is "always" true, does this give us carte blanche in terms of how we treat people? Where is the space for us to hear another person's perspective about how we are showing up in the world? Where is the opening for people to tell us the impact we have made where the harm we have caused? When applied as an Absolute Truth regardless of circumstance, this perspective can appear defensive, smug, and lacking in humility. "Oh you have a problem with me?
If your faith is making you a jerk, throw it out and start over. If your faith makes you want to fight “worldly people” all the time and you‘re always shaking your head at “this generation,” then your god is too small and your god is probably you. One of the reasons I was an atheist for so long is because I often wondered if religion makes people worse. Objectively worse. Religion seems to set up a battle position in which “I must guard the truth” and “If you disagree, you’re the enemy, the infidel, the heathen, and evidence of the apocalypse.” Instead of serving the poor and welcoming foreigners and loving the rejected—you know, the stuff that the Bible cares about—money is spent basically enforcing a kid’s fort with passwords and Don’t Enter signs and alarmist war strategies against a phantom caricature that’s only made up to feel like something important is being fought for. My guess is that some religious folks do not see their faith as a gift that has saved them, but rather as a weapon by which they must “save” everyone else. So then, the kingdom-military-triumphalist language in the Bible is lifted to boost the ego and separate from “worldliness” and to claim that any criticism against the church is “an attack against the family.” It makes Christians look really weird. I don’t mean that in a good way, like “Wow she’s so weird for giving away money to fight human trafficking.” I mean weird as in “He just hurled that venti Starbucks coffee at the barista because it didn’t say Christmas on it.” Yes, persecution exists. Which is all the more reason that saying persecution can never, ever be used in a comfortable context. God stop me if I ever think I’m being persecuted when I’m really being called out and held accountable. God help me if I ever use my faith to divide, out of superiority, as a lens of cynicism, instead of giving me hope that we are all within God’s grasp, His grace, His peace.
I hope you look up every now and then on your journey and think back to when you prayed for what you have now. There’s no shortcuts, but there’s a lot of wins along the way. Slow down just enough to see what’s coming your way. Slow down just enough to stay grounded, consistent and clear. Slow down just enough to see that everything you’ve put energy to, has taken shape amidst your anxiety of thinking you need to be even further along. The last time I started over was 6 years ago. It has been some climb. I had to literally start from scratch in order to redefine a future life. As the saying goes, far from where I started, far from where I’m going. However, I’m enjoying where I’m at, which only generates more. Stay blessed. Stay grateful.
This quote came from a piece by Art Markham for @fastcompany titled, Five Habits of Creative People. They are as follows. 1 They study the details. 2 They have developed a discipline routine. 3 They realize that everything is important. 4 They consider the timing. 5 They know when to give up. My take… In other words, we’re prepared to strike when the iron is hot because we live in a constant state of learning; where the details matter to the long game and everything will have its significance in the right time. And we’re also good at pivoting...
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