Therapy is about exploring the totality of you, not isolating the many labels society begs we tag ourselves with. The right therapist will encourage you to embrace all parts of you, and help you find your best methods to keep all those parts of you balanced. 🛋 At MyWellbeing, we find your perfect therapy match. Wondering how? Tap the link in our bio, or read more below: 1: Share your preferences by filling out our free, confidential questionnaire (linked in bio!) 2: Get 3 matches within 24 hours and schedule free phone consultations to explore your fit. 3: Book with your therapist or talk through any questions with your My Wellbeing guide. 🛋 We know how hard it is to find the right match. But we don’t think it should be. If you’re looking to find the right therapist for you, we’ve got your back. Link in bio!
Awakening to your own goodness is terrifying when you’ve spent so many years wondering where it was, not knowing it’s been there all along, patiently and tenderly waiting for you to rediscover it. We so easily forget that finding ourselves and getting to know the truth of who we are isn’t about seeking it somewhere in the distance, but is more about doing the deep work of slowing down, tuning inward, and creating enough safety to gently reintroduce yourself to the parts that have been tugging at you to notice them. The parts you never needed to prove. The parts you never needed to earn. The parts you never should have needed to hide or forget or lose sight of. The grief that comes with realizing just how distant your life circumstances have pulled you from your own goodness is raw and wide. It might be engulfing. It might be so big that you’re not sure embracing your goodness is worth it. It might be so all-encompassing that you question what’s on the other side. Grief is a mirror of the truth. What I’m (re)learning this year is this: Doing the work of unlearning the layers that have been piled on top of your innate goodness, beauty, and aliveness is worth the grief of forgetting it. Being in the liminal space between the version you thought you needed to be and the version you truly are is worth the uncertainty and confusion. Being held and witnessed and mirrored by people who fully see your wholeness is worth the fear of releasing and renewing. Being willing to question the narratives you’ve been carrying and feeling them slowly crumble within you is worth all of it, even when it feels messy as hell -- and oh, it will. If you are in the in-between, the confusion, the tension between what was and what is, the dance of grief and joy, or the wildness of getting to know yourself underneath the mask, you are not alone. I can’t think of anything braver than allowing ourselves to see what’s really there and, when it feels safe, to allow others to
Anger gets a bad rap, despite it being a perfectly normal, valid and even healthy emotion. Getting angry post trauma can be a sign of posttraumatic growth, something your system needs to do to fully move through it. Just like all emotions, if we repress anger, it may get “stuck” which is an indication that you could benefit from some additional processing. While it’s normal to experience anger, you don’t have to be held captive by it forever.
My December wish for us all is twofold: that we are kind (Kind to each other and to ourselves). And that when there is kindness that we savor it, stay with it, take it in, receive it, believe it to be true, believe that it is for us. Both parts matter: the giving and the receiving. For many of us the receiving is even harder- it’s hard not to tell a story about how it’s not true, or rush into the next moment and forget that kindness was ever there. But we need to work harder on receiving it than we think we do: our brains (thanks evolution) are wired to take in hurtful or scary information with more ease than the good and yummy stuff- so we have to try to stay with it. Thats how we grow. The Beauty is that when we do that- it becomes easier to share kindness and goodness with others that we see in them. (Read more about this in the book “hardwiring happiness”) ✨ wants some practice? Leave a kind word for someone below, write someone a card, buy the person behind you in line a coffee, or leave an encouraging voicemail for a friend. #therapy#december#beaucoupbakery#kindness#positive#psychology#healing#positivepsychology#affectiveneuroscience#interpersonalneurobiology
When we feel the urge to over-explain, we’re feeling the urge to control someone’s thoughts about us or our actions. Of course there are situations where we need to clear things up with an explanation, but it’s impossible, and usually not necessary, to change what others think. We need to practice accepting that people will have different opinions of us and our choices.
Tuesday reminder 📣 Intrusive thoughts are quite simply just that: thoughts that are intrusive. . Those with OCD often feel so much shame for having the thoughts. I often hear “but I had the thought so I must be horrible” or “normal people don’t have these thoughts” or “I am so gross” . I have been there personally..feeling like a gross person for having sexually intrusive thoughts about the last people I would ever want to have thoughts about. . What I know now, and what I hope so deeply to spread every day of my life, is that intrusive thoughts do not make you bad. Intrusive thoughts are not bad. They are just thoughts..thoughts that all humans have. The difference is that they stick with those who have OCD because their brain is wired differently. . You don’t like the thoughts. They scare you. They’re so opposite to what you value. You are not choosing to struggle with this. You are not choosing OCD. The thoughts stick because of how much you dislike them and try to push them away. . You are most certainly not gross. I know that it FEELS that way, but remember that feelings aren’t facts. . Try your best to defuse from the thoughts. See them as what they are: a string of words in your head. The greater your ability to defuse from them, the less power they hold over you. They’re just thoughts and the less you fight them, the less they fight you. . Sending so much love to anyone struggling 💛 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #ocd#pureo#pureocd#hocd#rocd#pocd#harmocd#obsession#compulsion#obsessivecompulsivedisorder#ocdrecovery#ocdawareness#ocdproblems#intrusivethoughts#stigma#depression#panic#anxiety#anxietyrelief#anxious#depressed#losangelea#therapy#therapist#mentalhealth#mentalhealthawareness#mentalhealthquotes#mindfulness#suicideprevention#youarenotalone
While talking to friends can feel therapeutic, it is NOT the same as therapy. We appreciate @kaha.mind making this distinction: "Your therapist is trained to help you deal with your issues. Remember, only a therapist has the skills and training to help you with your mental health, which makes it a better choice, even though talking to a friend might be free. A therapeutic relationship between a therapist and a client is very very different from a friendship. It’s not just about paying someone to let you vent (like what we see in the movies), but involves a lot more. Therapy will teach you how to understand how your past is affecting your present, how to manage your emotions, teach you how to improve relationships and deal with people, improve your decision making, and to better understand who you are." #mentalhealthawareness#mentalhealthmatters#kahamind#therapy#therapyworks#therapyquotes#mentalhealthquotes#mentalhealth#psychalive#psychologyfact#psychologyquote#mentalhealthrecovery
So much of who we think we are is the movement of old patterns in our mind, reactions that reinforce particular behaviors depending on the situations that arise. These mental movements happen rather quickly and strengthen our sense of identity - our habits, whether they support our happiness or not, come together to build our character. Some may say, well this is who I am, but as our awareness grows we come to understand that 'who I am' is not stagnant or permanent, it is a dynamic accumulation that comes together to create a momentary phenomenon. The mind’s ability to change is one of our greatest powers. When we work toward changing ourselves there may be times where we struggle because a particular habit is so deeply entrenched in our identity. Self-improvement does not happen overnight; it is a long-term process. If we continue working on ourselves diligently and have a good tool that helps us release the patterns that cause us misery, then we will ultimately succeed in changing ourselves for the better. The deepest part of letting go does not happen when we intellectualize, it happens when we have a tool, like a good meditation technique, that takes us into the subconscious to release the tension that is in there. Sending love to all beings. May we all find a practice that really helps us let go at the deepest levels. May we all be happy and free. My first book, Inward, is on sale for $9.99 through the link in my profile and available in bookstores. 🙏🏽🌎 #yungpueblo
✨ Here is a timely reminder that your presence is the best present. Sure it feels nice to see our children open gifts on Christmas morning, but if you aren't able to provide them with the gifts on their wish list I hope you remind yourself that your measure as a parent is not reflected in the presents you were able to purchase. Numerous studies have demonstrated that what children need to thrive is your love and presence. If you've purchased a high ticket item for your child you know how quickly it can be tossed aside, causing many parents to choose to forego presents all together. Whatever your choice as a parent is, please know in your heart that your presence will always be the best present. ✨What does being present look like? Spending quality time together, hearing them share their stories, working on a project together. Giving them our undivided attention (children can sense when we are distracted) and filling up their love tank. ✨And lastly, please remember that NO amount of presents can substitute for authentic connection.
When we start the healing process a lot of what has been buried in our subconscious becomes untangled and released; it is the process of letting go that removes the tension that limits our happiness and inclines our behavior toward certain directions. This alleviates our thought pattern and brings clarity to our reasoning ability. These slight movements into deeper areas of wisdom, a natural part of getting to know yourself, helps our new motivator become a growing sense of compassion for ourselves and others - it is easier to understand others and the things that drive their actions when you understand your own inner world. One of the first areas that we can see a significant change is in how we intentionally and consciously think, we start being more gentle with ourselves and others, a new loving positivity emerges from releasing the tension of ego and allowing the clarity of consciousness to come forward - the essence of healing ourselves. This should not be confused for a total transformation, we can see signs of a new clarity emerging in our minds, but we must remember that the mind is vast, truly immense, and that the subconscious - where most of the old emotional history that impacts our daily behavior is contained, will still hold much that needs to be released. This creates a situation where our conscious thought pattern may have changed in the direction we are trying to move into, but our subconscious thoughts, the ones that spontaneously and unintentionally emerge, are still filled with the heaviness and harshness of old ways. This is not to say that we should force ourselves to think a certain way or push down our subconscious thoughts, we should just be aware that this is a natural part of the healing process and that we should focus on cultivating the habits that are helping us transform and using the practices that are healing our mind-space. Healing ourselves is not forcing ourselves to feel and think in certain ways, the real healing happens
This post shows another example of how thinking errors ultimately change the way we feel and act upon a situation. We may be susceptible to getting caught in the negative thinking pattern (left) if we are already experiencing anxiety or low self-esteem. This is why it is important to recognize when our thoughts are distorted and question them until this way of self-regulating becomes automatic for us. . Note: these thoughts, feelings, and behaviours are examples used for psychoeducational purposes only. The *situation* here can lead to various types of negative thinking patterns. Humans are complex and no one person reacts exactly the same in a certain situation. #cbt#cognitivebehavioraltherapy
It doesn't have to be super complicated to translate our values into actions, but it's so important to connect our actions today and in this moment to the directions we care about in life. If we don't, then it totally makes sense that we say we care about one thing but then end up doing things that are far removed from what we care about. This moment connects to the whole thing. How will you make it connect? #goals#actions#mentalhealth#recovery#time#every #diagram. #design#psychology#therapy#anxiety#obsessing#socialanxiety