Real growth is when you look the same as you always have, but now you see that person as perfect, and exactly who they are meant to be. ⠀ ⠀ Real growth is when you have what you've always had, but now it is enough. Real growth is when you stop trying to control situations, and start managing your reactions to them. Real growth is when really nothing around you has changed, and yet everything within you has. ⠀ ⠀ It's not about waiting until the moment that you have the best of everything, it's about becoming the kind of person who can see the best in anything.
Thoughts don't generate outcomes, intentions don't generate outcomes, hopes don't generate outcomes. Actions generate outcomes. Thoughts and intentions and hopes can merely motivate us to act. ⠀ ⠀ In the end, our lives are the culmination of what we do. Not what we wanted to do, not what we would have done, not what we intended to do. We are defined by what we did, whether we felt like it or not.
Everything you want involves other people.⠀ ⠀ Learning to respect them, coexist with them, connect with them and get along with them is not optional. It is an essential part of the self-development process.⠀ ⠀ Pushing everyone away because it's not convenient for you is not how you heal.⠀ ⠀ Sometimes, it's how you cope while you're healing. ⠀ ⠀ But it isn't, and cannot be, the end goal. ⠀ ⠀ It's true that you have to be stable and happy as an individual, but it's more true that learning to reintegrate into your family, friends coworkers and community is ultimately how you restore your life.
When you're thinking about what you want for this next decade of your life, remember that what you decide on January 1 does not have to be completed by December 31. ⠀ ⠀ Your annual goals do not have to reflect precisely what you want to accomplish in 365 days. To really be effective, they should be what you want to create in this new chapter — this new decade — however long it takes to arrive. Life-changing work is often not achieved in a few months' time. ⠀ ⠀ Let go of the limiting timeline. ⠀ ⠀ Step into the light of what you're ready to create.
When you make fun of people for the way they look, you don't only insult them, you also teach everyone around you that the thing they need to fear most is not appearing a certain way. When everyone does this, we end up with exactly the society we have.⠀ ⠀ It's why we have people walking around more afraid of not looking good enough than being a good enough person. More concerned with being in style than actually being decent to others. More afraid of being judged for whether or not they aged well than whether or not they got wiser, stronger, or made a difference in the world.⠀ ⠀ I'm not saying you have to like everyone. I'm saying that if your reasons for not liking someone is the way they look — the problem is you.
امسال یازدهمین سال سفرهای ماهیگیری من به خلیج فارس است یادم میاد که روزهای اول با ساده ترین لوازم به خلیج فارس سفر میکردم و تا چندین سال به کندی تجربه کسب کردم چون هیچ کسی نبود بهم بگه با لوازمم چطوری کار کنم و اطلاعات کمی از دریا داشتم،زیاد کسی آبشور کار نمیکرد حتی چند عکس در سال هم تو سایتها دیده نمیشد،شاید ارتباط بین ماهیگیرا کمتر بود و تجربه ها و تصاویر خیلی کمی دست به دست میشد من ماهیگیری آبشورو از بومیان جنوب یاد گرفتم و هزینه و زمان زیادی صرف کسب تجاربم کردم ای کاش که اون سالها کسی بود که تو یک سفر چند روزه مبانی ابتدایی ماهیگیری را به من هم یاد میداد تا از سفرهام نتیجه بیشتری بگیرم اما کسی نبود و شاید اگر هم بود تجربشو در اختیار من نمیذاشت خلاصه بگم که با وجود این چندین سال هنوز هم احساس میکنم خیلی چیزهارو از دریا نمیدونم چون معتقدم که ماهیگیری آبشور تنها به این نیست که هر طعمهای دم دستت اومد بندازی تو آب و قایقو بذاری تو دنده و الهی به امید خودت و منتظر شانست باشی اون ماهی شانسیرو همه میتونن بگیرن دریا مثل یک دانشگاهه که دانشجوهای زیادی رو درس میده و نمیشه راه چند ساله رو یک ساله طی کرد اذرماه 98