In our rush to figure it all out, find a solution, and make the discomfort go away, we get it wrong. A lot of the times the solutions we are in search of are just another way for us to restore the balance and minimize what we’re experiencing. We imagine a life without hardship and we become fearful of the seemingly negative and undoubtedly comfortable aspects of being human. Here’s a small reminder, in case you needed it. Every feeling doesn’t have to be assigned a meaning. Every negative thought does not have to be linked or rooted in a deeper belief or experience. Every uncomfortable feeling doesn’t need a label attached. Every little difference and atypical trait doesn’t need to be shamed, dissected, assessed, labeled, diagnosed. It’s okay to accept that uncomfortable feelings are happening. You don’t always need to understand why. It’s okay to embrace the seemingly “negative” without the expectation that you need to find an immediate solution for it. It’s okay to lean into discomfort without having to search for a way to fix it or make it go away. It’s okay to embrace labels if they’re helpful for you. It’s okay to reject labels if they don’t fit your experience. It’s okay to reject a diagnosis. It’s okay to want an answer and want a diagnosis. It’s okay to let things happen. Maybe you’re not broken. Maybe you’re not so different. Maybe you’re not so trapped in the box you’ve been assigned to. Maybe you have more control or strength or inner wisdom than you thought. Maybe you’re not the problem. Maybe you’re not so complex or beyond help. Maybe these are normal responses to abnormal circumstances. At the end of it all, some things just are. So let them be.
“Why are you worried? We’ve barely begun,” they whisper as I turn away. Because I worry about silly things. And I think the saddest thing is when someone thinks “I love you” means, “You make my life easy.” Because love is only ever easy in the beginning and from then on, if it is worth investing in, it requires work like a beautiful garden requires work. It is hard and when you are done, it looks effortless. You must not go into love thinking it will be easy. You must go into love thinking that it will be worth it. - A quiet warning shines between the clouds.
Clients and course members will sometimes ask, through tears, “How can I be grieving something that happened 40 years ago?” We have a distorted understanding of grief in our grief-phobic culture. We think that there’s a timeline on grief – that if you experienced a loss a year ago or 20 years ago you should be “over it by now”. It’s a mindset that is in diametric opposition to the rhythm of the heart that is not bound by laws of time and space. For the heart, the loss of your father when you were eight years old can sometimes surface with as much pain today as it was back then. This is because the eight-year old still lives in your body, and when the grief is reawakened by memory or dream or anniversary of a loss, it is as if it happened today. This doesn’t mean that we spend every day in grief about old losses, but it means that when a layer of grief ripples up to the surface, the healthy response is to make room and allow ourselves to feel it. • One day, when we become a culture that honors feelings more than we worship productivity, we will understand that we need to grieve as long as we need to grieve, and that grief has its own timeline that cannot squeeze itself into the rigid, rationalistic mindset of the culture. In this new model, we won’t expect people to be back at work a week after a major loss. We will recognize that a loss like a miscarriage is a death experience, and we will treat it as such. We will honor the heartbreak of breakups, and offer roadmaps that will help people navigate these treacherous transitions with more grace. We’ll allow for grief days like we allow for sick days. We can push grief aside. We can distract in the hundreds of ways that we distract. But that doesn’t mean that it disappears. It lives inside, waiting for attention, waiting for us to cup our hearts in our hands and catch the tears that are aching to spill forth. • #grief#healthytears#feelingishealing#depression#anxiety#loss#death
1⃣.Wer bist du? . 🔹Ich bin @keavongarnier , Autorin, Grafikerin und zweifache Katzenmama. Meine Liebe gehört der Literatur– neben meiner Selbstständigkeit studiere ich Kreatives Schreiben in Hildesheim. Seit fünf Jahren füttere ich meinen Blog und Instagram mit Texten über mentale Gesundheit, Feminismus und Gesellschaft. Dabei geht es mir in dieser selbstoptimierungswütigen Welt vor allem darum, zu zeigen, dass gute wie schlechte Zeiten zum Menschsein dazugehören. . 2⃣.Wofür steht dein Instagramaccount? . 🔹Auf Instagram erzähle ich, wie ich trotz, mit und manchmal sogar dank meiner psychischen Erkrankungen (Angststörung, Depressionen, Borderline und DPDR) ein kreatives und selbstfürsorgliches Leben führe. Außerdem geht es darum, Beziehungsabhängigkeit zu überwinden und besonders Mädchen und Frauen dazu zu ermutigen, die Verantwortung für ihre Lebenszufriedenheit selbst zu übernehmen. . 3⃣.Ist dir die Entstigmatisierung wichtig? Wenn ja, weshalb? . 🔹Ich habe in meiner Jugend stark darunter gelitten, dass psychische Erkrankungen so ein Tabuthema waren – dabei sind sie keine Schwäche, kein Ausdruck fehlender Willensstärke, sondern Hilferufe der eigenen Seele. Speziell in der Arbeits- und Berufswelt ist noch so viel zu tun! Und in der patriarchal geprägten Leistungsgesellschaft sowieso! Ein Mensch wird nicht erst durch sein „Funktionieren" wertvoll, sondern ist es durch sein Sein. . 4⃣.Hast du einen Tipp rund um Selbstfürsorge und seelische Gesundheit in der Weihnachtszeit? . 🔹Wenn du denkst, dass alle anderen Menschen außer dir eine harmonische, vor Liebe und guter Laune nur so strotzende Zeit mit ihren Familien verbringen, lass dir sagen: das ist nicht wahr. Wir alle kennen Angst, Wut, Enttäuschung und Einsamkeit. Diese Gefühle gehören zum Leben. Aber sie dauern nicht ewig. Heute ist immer nur eine Momentaufnahme. Ich habe mal einen so schönen Spruch gelesen: it's a bad day, not a bad
The big break. Are we all being subconsciously brainwashed into thinking that if we just “live our passions” and live in flow state and live out our dreams; that we are all destined to have a big break? And everything will click & happen perfectly? We inject this expectation of success everywhere. Well What if there is no big break within our future? Are we just living in an in between state full of build up that is leading to nowhere ? __ Maybe we need to flip the grip of reality in our mind because what is reality anyway? And maybE THIS IS IT. This is the big break. Being human. Living a human experience in this life is the big break. Why is our culture putting fame or the craving to be heard and seen on such a sky high pedestal ? It comes down to legacy... we want to be remembered as (full in the blank). _____ But if we are so preoccupied with how we want to be remembered, are we even sitting in this moment right here and now? This moment has the direct connection to how we will be remembered. The way we interact with everyone in our lives, the thjbcd we sat and do... the projects. There’s a beautiful thing about planning but living too far ahead in the future can really fuck up the flow of our contentment. When will we realize that this is the big break without the needing to constantly uplevel to more money, more recognition, and more power . We can awaken to the life we have now. The love of our friends and family, and the opportunity to heal and BE.
IMPORTANT: Having one or more of the following symptoms does not necessarily mean you have postpartum depression or anxiety. If you feel you may be at risk, I’d encourage you to consult with a mental health professional who can officially diagnose you. No two individuals experience PPD/A exactly the same. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sometimes, a parent (mother or father) with postpartum depression may believe they just have the “baby blues” after the birth of their baby. However, if your symptoms are chronic and interfere with your ability to carry out everyday activities, then you MAY be experiencing postpartum depression. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Post-partum depression is classified in the DSM-V as Bipolar Disorder or Depression with Peripartum Onset. In my opinion, the diagnosis is not as important as what you are experiencing. If you find that simple tasks are becoming overwhelming, focus on taking care of your needs first so you can take care of your family. Start with prioritizing sleep, nutrition, and exercise. As a new parent, a good sleep session seems almost impossible, so I encourage you to ask for help from loved ones. Most want to help so let them know how they can. Also, start with setting small manageable goals for the day and try to achieve them one by one. The most important advice I can give is to show yourself kindness and compassion. You are doing your best. You are enough. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sending you all the love, Nawal.💕
When they ask "have you tried Yoga?" Yes, yes I have. Yoga is great. Not sure it'll cure my Lupus but I'll let you know babe. This is usually my face when I'm ready to go in on someone. My friends know 😂 We've all heard something like this. Me personally, I have a weird reaction to advice. I actually don't mind it that much, especially when it comes from other chronic illness patients. It's hard having a long term illness with no cure and I generally find it interesting to hear about remedies that have helped people. I can only know if it works for me by trying it and some have been super helpful. Also, I'm have a Jamaican grandma where almost everything gets solved by tea 😂 On the other end, I guess it's all about the approach. Forceful advice, (especially from people who dont have an illness) does not come across well. Making people feel like it's their fault if they don't follow your tips is not cool. I've been pretty lucky having this Instagram page. You all are super duper cool so I haven't really had deal with any abuse. When it does happen, it's really rare and it's just a matter of hitting block button with a quickness 😅 Anyway, what's some unhelpful advice you've recieved recently? Also, go and watch the "Things Not To Say To People With A Chronic Illness" video I made last year. It's on my IGTV and will give you a good giggle. 📷 @brownbrand @photo_brandz #youlookokaytome#lupus#lupusawareness#arthritis#butyoudontlooksick#outfitoftheday#ootd#selfcare#selflove#chronicillness#chronicpain#invisibleillness#affirmation#anxiety#autoimmune#autoimmunedisease#blogger#mentalhealth#depression#me#fashionphotography#london
Isvara: the highest state of collective consciousness Pranidhana: fixing ⠀ Isvara Pranidhana asks that we offer all of our actions to uplifting humanity, or to the divine One (which we are all part of). It asks that we act unselfishly. It asks that we be of service. ⠀ I’m nowhere near being an addictions counselor yet, but I do hope to help others by sharing my experiences with recovery and holding space for others to do the same (like.. with this challenge). I am SO close to being a yoga instructor though! ⠀ I’ll be arriving at an Ashram in Austin tonight to spend the week finishing up my 200hr yoga teacher certification with @yoga_medicine and I am so excited to see everybody!! 🥰 ⠀ These are my teachers, who have devoted their lives to uplifting others. My small group teacher, @dianemalaspinayoga is a yoga teacher and a psychologist who co-leads the Yoga Medicine module on mental health.. and my other small group teacher @megankearney is a yoga teacher and studio owner who created an amazing non profit, @strongershieldproject, that helps first responders cope with trauma. It was perfect that I ended up in their small group because honestly.. I hope to be just like them when I grow up 🤩💗🙌🏻 ⠀ How will you incorporate Isvara Pranidhana into your life? ⠀ #recoveringyogis ⠀ Hosts: @colleenmichellelewis @laraliam @georgina_mariee @txsoberyogi @erikafischeryoga ⠀ Sponsors: @onzie @ajnawellbeing @mayyouknowjoy