In this space I show weddings and engagements, but I like to use the space below the images to talk about marriage. My marriage. Real marriages. Because when the confetti falls, and the party is over, the work begins. I’m still just an egg, only married (almost) two years. We’ve been together 6.5 years. And I’ll argue with anyone who says marriage doesn’t change things. It does. For us, it changed for the better. We are in a very unique, unpredictable season of our lives right now. And I keep having these epiphanies where I can see a situation through my husband’s eyes and it’s stunning the clarity and empathy that this brings. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The lesson for this week: we bought a house, totally based on intuition, practically site unseen. I’ve had the chance to sleep in it, rake the yard, take a shower, (take a shit), all in this wonderful place full of perfect energy. He’s physically been inside of this house once. I can’t imagine how scary that must feel- how unknown this place is for him. The minute I really realized this, I regretted every short tempered, combative moment that we’ve had talking about bathroom renovations and new dishwashers. I realized that his tension and fear isn’t about wall colors or renovation budgets, but simply a reaction to the unknown. And sadly I haven’t been as sensitive to this as I could have been. The moral of the story: remember that your partner’s experience is different than yours. Never compromise, communicate. And never stop believing that the person you love has something new to teach you about life. . . . . . #adventurouslovers#heywildweddings#dirtybootsandmessyhair#ohwowyes#couplesgoals#nycengagement#anniversaryphotos#wildhearts#brooklynengagementphotos#finnrauen#finnrauenphotography#finnrauenweddings#finnrauenphoto#marriageadvice#brooklyn#nyc#travelingphotographer#soulmates#inspiremyinstagram#muchlove_ig
“The sun shines not on us, but in us. The rivers flow not past us but through us. Thrilling, tingling, vibrating every fiber and cell of the substance of our bodies, making them glide and sing.” - John Muir
The limo ride had some serious heat... and not just because the air conditioning was broken. . . I have a lot of things I want to say about Saturday and I’m sure they’ll come out more eloquently in a blog post soon. But I’ll give you the bullet points: 1. Marry your soul mate. Wait for them, love them, let them come back if the universe allows it. 2. Traditions are guidelines, not rules. The structure of this wedding day (at least for my job) was unlike any wedding I’ve ever worked. But it was perfect for THEM, it’s not about anything or anyone else. 3. If the limo shows up and has no air conditioning, you’re allowed to ✌🏻 and drive your own truck (lesson for next time). . . Helen and Ellen are the classiest, funniest humans I’ve ever gotten to work with. Their wedding was elegant, with nothing extra or extravagant. I’d like to shoot this wedding every weekend. Please and thank you.
Every time I think I have a “method” to photographing a wedding, my couples will throw me a curve ball... and it keeps inspiring me to step up to the plate. Taylor and Steve for example... our sunset portraits on the lake, turned into rained out, overcast portraits at dusk.... no regrets. Things change. On this day we were literally forced to dance in the rain. The result... one of my favorite portraits of the year!