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Heather | Psychologist • Coach

drheatherstevenson

♾ Mind-body healer 💓 Self-love advocate 🔐 Mindfulness teacher Get out of your head + into the moment Let’s get started 👇🏼

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On this #worldsmentalhealthday I want to help normalize that it’s okay to not be okay, it’s okay to ask for help, it’s okay to need help, it’s okay to see a therapist. ❤️ If you’re having a hard time YOU DO NOT HAVE TO GO THROUGH IT ALONE! ❤️ Call a friend, a family member, a professional, grab your journal and write it out. Whatever works for you.  You matter, your mental health matters and you deserve to feel better. #itsokaynottobeokay #itsokaytonotbeokay #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #therapy #ihaveatherapist #mentalwellness #courage #strength #imheretohelp #therapist #coach #youareenough #breakthestigma
IN•TE•GRATION• Today I showed up for myself in a really big way. It was terrifying, I felt the nerves swimming inside me for about 20 minutes beforehand, I cried... and then, I f*cking did it anyway.  It took about 10-15 min for the nerves to subside, my system to calm, and for the excitement and expansion to kick in. But that didn’t last for too long either.  Afterwards I walked down the street different. Held my head up higher. Felt taller. More confident. Already. Every so often pausing to intentionally pay attention to what I was feeling and soak it in. Good or bad, as the energy kept moving and changing. And breathing, very mindfully.  The fear and anxiety were still there, and would come up occasionally. But in smaller waves, more like little ripples on the surface instead of crashing wakes.  This has been a year of intentionally showing up for myself in new and scary ways. Each time I seem to up the stakes and push myself further outside my comfort zone.  This isn’t easy or fun work. But I do it because I want to show up in my life in a different way. I want to show up in my business in new ways. And I want to show up for my clients in bigger ways. Every time I get better at starting before I’m ready and feeling the fear but doing it anyway. It f*cking sucks AND lights me up like nothing else.  I can’t wait to show up for you in new and bigger ways as this year continues. I can’t wait to keep showing up for myself in bigger and bigger ways. And I encourage YOU to push yourself to show up for yourself in a new or bigger way this week.  This is integration. The contrast at first feels stark, abrupt, and slow. And then it blends together and you become a new version of yourself.  #mindfulness #integration #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #selfconfidence #therapythursday #therapisttips #coach #mindbodysoul #confidence #expansion #elevate2evolve #ridethewaves #beintentional #courage #strength #vulnerability #liveonpurpose
How’s your self-acceptance practice going? I think most of us, myself included, can struggle with this greatly at various times in our lives. But unless we practice being more accepting, compassionate and kind to ourselves, we are destined to suffer from unhappiness and loneliness. #selfacceptance #selfcompassion #kindness #change #selfgrowth #personaldevelopment #evolving #selflove #perfectionism #peoplepleasing #typeapersonality
What is mindful eating? Intentionally creating a moment with your meal where you focus on nothing but the food and your experience with it. * Turn off all distractions. No phone time, screen time, reading etc. * Slow down, notice the colors, shapes, textures, smells and tastes. Enjoy each bite and give yourself time for each one to be swallowed before putting the next in your mouth. * Pause every few bites to gauge your satiation level. Make it an experience of curiosity, enjoyment and intentional awareness. * This doesn’t have to be a long 30 min endeavor. Even just a few minutes of this and you will feel different, better. Try it and tell me how it goes below! * #mindfuleating #mindfulnessmonday #mondaymotivation #therapy #mindfulness #healyourbody #nutrition #mindbodysoul #slowdown #relaxationtips #typeapersonality #stressreduction
This one of the bests lists I’ve seen of ways to build intimacy and connection. When our culture is shifting more and more towards disconnect and unhappiness THIS IS HOW WE CREATE MORE LOVE.  And who doesn’t want more love and connection in their lives? As humans it’s what we are hard wired for.  Can you pick one of these to commit to practicing more of today? Tell me in the comments below and let’s build the love!  #relationships #intimacybuilding #lovemore #mentalwellness #mentalhealth #createlove #acalltomen #psychologist #therapy #strength #courage #perspective #intimacy #happiness #vulnerability #thisissexy #nycpsychologist #livebetter #mindbodysoul #takeoffthemask #balance #emotionalintelligence #growth #evolve #lovingbravely #couples #intimacycoach #loveandmarriage #relationshipcoach #turnons
Self care is a multi-pronged practice! Taking care of yourself is honestly one of most important jobs you have and sets the stage for how you want others to treat you too. If you’re not treating yourself the best how can you expect others to? * If you struggle with this repeat after me please: Step aside toxic people and inner critic, I’m f*cking taking care of me today! Because damnit I’m worth it! * You sure are, you rockstar! I believe in you! Get out there and do you today 😁  #selfcarematters #therapy #therapisttips #mentalhealth #wellness #selfcaretips #dailyaffirmations #perfectionist #typeapersonality #elevate2evolve #livebetter #youreworthit #selfcaresaturday #happiness #depressionrelief #anxietyrelief #selfempowerment #nyctherapist #myselfcare #emotionalhealth #nurtureyourself #selfcompassion #balance #mindbodysoul #success #igotyou
Life is not meant to be serious all the time, but so often my work is. Moments when I can just laugh with a friend or client or even just at myself always feels like a power boost ⚡️😆 Here are a few research proven benefits of laughter: * Relaxes your whole body * Boosts immune system * Triggers endorphin release (feel-good hormone) * Protects the heart * Burns calories * Lightens anger * Helps you live longer * Forms social bonds * Promotes brain connectivity  How often do you laugh throughout your week?  #selfcaretips #health #mentalwellness #mentalhealth #stressrelief #depressionrelief #therapy #laughteristhebestmedicine #selfcarematters #menshealth #emotionalhealth #myselfcare #takeoffthemask #emotionalwellbeing #emotionalwellness #bewell #balance
Why does it feel so hard sometimes to talk to each other when we’re in a relationship? Probably because interpersonal communication skills aren’t really taught anywhere. • Unless you had great models at home you likely don’t know how to talk about things like how you’re feeling, sharing when something is bothering you, how to bring up a problem or ask for help. • It’s not your fault you didn’t learn this skill earlier, but it is your responsibility as an adult to work on improving it if you want a healthy relationship. • What’s the one thing you wish you could say to your partner but haven’t yet either because you’re not sure how or you’re scared about how they’ll react? • Good communication skills are sexy as hell, I guarantee your partner will appreciate you for working on them rather than holding it in. Start practicing now by sharing below or sending me a DM. 👇🏽 #communicationissexy #emotionalintelligence #letstalk #relationships #couples #marriage #communication #speakup #boundaries #communicationtips #communicationadvice #communicationskills #innercritic #emotionalhealth #emotions #vulnerability #courage #beingbrave #growthmindset #selfdevelopment #perspective #softskills #emotionalwellbeing #healthyboundaries #personalgrowth
Dear Men: Do you ever wish your life could be different but aren’t sure how or if it’s possible to change? I can guarantee you it is and you can.  And I’m here to help with that. If this sounds like you then please keep reading: - A professional career-focused man, you’re a high achiever but it’s starting to take a toll - Single or partnered, you want a relationship that makes you happy, feels easy, encourages you to be better and accepts your faults - Struggling with burnout, overwhelm, stress, anxiety, depression, anger, problems with sleep or low energy • Join an 8-week group specifically for men in NYC focused on issues of burnout/self care, health, communication, relationships, addiction, mental health, and masculinity.  Located in midtown manhattan starting Saturday’s in April.  It’s time to back control of your life in all areas, not just work.  Ready to shift out of overdrive and into a life that feels more like cruise control on the open highway, in a convertible? Email me for more info or to sign up info@drheatherstevenson.com | Space is limited.  Don’t wait. Your new life is waiting for you. • #acalltomen #redefinemasculinity #menscoach #mindsetshift #courage #manenoughtoshare #manbox #breakthestigma #breakthesilence #takeoffthemask #healthymasculinity #strongmen #mensmentalhealth  #menshealth #truestrength #emotionalintelligence #emotionalhealth #emotionalwellbeing #intimacy #relationships #communication #loveandmarriage #couples #marriage #manhood #masculinity #wearemanenough #menswork #vulnerability #mensgroup
Dear man: You don’t have to keep it all inside. There are people who want to hear you speak. Hear you share your fears, pain, sadness, anger, frustration and joy.⠀ ⠀ It’s time to stop buying into the old outdated ideals of masculinity that glorify the strong silent type. You deserve to be heard and people want to deeply connect with you. It’s time to open up and share.⠀ ⠀ #igotyou #mentalwellness #mentalhealth #justdoit #acalltomen #vulnerability #therapy #strength #courage #menscoach #happiness #success #itsokaytonotbeokay #manbox #newyork #nyctherapist#mentalhealthmatters #livebetter #takeoffthemask #menshealth #growth #evolve #bewell #breakthesilence #breakthestigma #mensmentalhealth #healthymasculinity #men #manenoughtoshare
Do you constantly look for the quick fix to your problems?  I sure did. Meditation was never something I thought would work for me. I couldn’t sit still, couldn’t turn my mind off, couldn’t stay focused. But when I decided to give myself 30 days to try it daily and see if anything happened, I finally noticed a shift. Just like medication can take time to build up in your system, meditation is similar, except it’s free and can be done anytime.  For more of my thoughts on potential pitfalls of meditation check out this article I was recently quoted in (link in bio): https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/2004987/pitfalls-of-meditation/ #meditation #mindsetshift #selfcare #mindfulness #therapy #nyctherapist #menshealth #mentalhealth #mentalawareness #perspective #truestrength #acalltomen #redefinemasculinity #courage #beingbrave #manenoughtoshare #breakthestigma #breakthesilence #mindbody #anxietyrelief #depressionrelief #lettinggo #takeoffthemask #manenough #healthymasculinity #strongmen #mensmentalhealth
How do I know if a therapist is right for me? Finding the right therapist can feel like a daunting task. What’s their style, what’s their rate, do they take insurance, where are they located, and so many more questions can come up.  There are tons of great therapists out there, but what’s most important is if they are right for you. That’s why I always tell prospective clients or people curious about therapy to treat it like a job search. > Go on Psychology Today or google therapists in your area and go through the lists of people checking out multiple profiles or websites. > Write down a list of all the ones that stood out and you liked best and email or call to set up consultation calls with several of them. These are usually free and talking to someone over the phone gives you a much better feel for their personality than anything on a website. > Don’t be afraid to ask questions about their style or how they work with people. While most therapists won’t tell you much personal info about themselves, they should all talk about how they approach work with clients. > Once you’ve talked to a few then decide who you want to set up an appointment with. > Most importantly don’t feel like you have to stick with the first therapist who has an opening for you if it doesn’t feel like the right fit. Sometimes it takes a couple sessions to really get that sense and it’s ok to change therapists if one isn’t working out. >  Having the right fit is one of the most fundamental things for good work to occur. I know it can be difficult and take time to get there but it’s 100% worth it. Don’t give up!  #therapy101 #therapy #nyctherapist #psychology #nycpsychologist #therapytips #therapythursday #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #therapist #igotyou #communication #relationships #courage #takeoffthemask #healthymasculinity #therapyadvocate #livebetter #mentalhealthmatters #growth #repeatorevolve #youarenotalone #stigmafree #breakthestigma #selfempowerment
Hey! If we haven’t met yet let me introduce myself. I’m Heather, a New York City based licensed psychologist and advocate for all things mental health and wellbeing.  My passion for psychology started as an angsty teen and my desire to help people feel better started even before that. Throughout my career my work has spanned from community mental health agencies to jails and maximum security men’s prison. I’ve helped people struggling with addiction, abuse, trauma, PTSD, depression, anxiety, perfectionism, anger issues, relationship problems, impulsive behaviors, and more. I love what I do and can’t imagine doing anything else with my life. 🔻 My lofty vision in life is to help shift the collective consciousness and world to become a place where everyone feels a deep sense of belonging, interconnectedness and shared humanity so that we can create a more loving, kind and compassionate world for all beings. 🔻 Sounds pretty big, right? But I honestly believe it’s possible and that it’s part of my mission in life to do what I can to help get us there. 🔻 I believe everyone deserves to feel heard, loved, accepted and cared about.  I believe the way we have been socialized as a culture has completely messed us up emotionally, mentally, energetically and physically.  I believe that our values of hustle more, grind harder, feel less, and keep up with the Jones’s has ruined our ability to feel joy, happiness, peace and calm. We are more disconnected from each other and ourselves than ever and I’m determined to help fix that. 🔻 I love working with both men and women, but men in particular have become my focus because I can personally relate to the messages they’re taught like not showing emotion, holding everything together inside, to keep working harder and avoid admitting weakness. 🔻 Continued in comments...
How do you view change? Like most people you may see it as scary, uncomfortable, difficult, or even unnecessary. Change itself isn’t really the hard part, change is just one foot in front of the other day after day. Simple.  The hard part is gathering the courage to take that first step and committing to showing up. The hard part is getting comfortable with the natural discomfort that comes from doing something new and different. Once you can get used to that, the rest gets so much easier.  What’s one step you can take today towards a change you may have been putting off?  #igotyou #mentalwellness #mentalhealth #justdoit #acalltomen #psychologist #therapy #strength #courage #perspective #keepgoing #happiness #success #nycpsychologist #mentalhealthmatters #livebetter #mindbodysoul #takeoffthemask #balance #selfcare #growth #evolve #change #livewell #liveyourdreams #anxiety #depression #stressrelief #youarenotalone #selfempowerment
How often do you blame external things for your reason for being unhappy? This common mental trap sets you up to be powerless to change. Things are merely happening to you right? ^ But the one thing I often remind clients is that you always have control of your thoughts. Period. If a negative or unhappy thought pops into your mind, it’s going to create a negative or unpleasant emotion, that’s how we work. But you can learn how to take control by practicing counter thoughts to those negative ones and in turn change the way you feel. ^ For example: instead of “I’m so stressed there’s just too much work to do” which can create anxiety and tension physically  Say something like this to yourself “I’m doing as much as I can and I’m making progress” followed by a deep breath and see if you can notice how your body may feel differently. ^  What are some other reframes you could try for this or other thoughts that create unhappiness for you? Share yours below 👇🏽 and check out today’s story for more insights! ^ #emotionalintelligence #igotyou #mentalwellness #mentalhealth #acalltomen #psychologist #therapy #mindcontrol #perspective #keepgoing #happiness #stressrelief #anxietyrelief #nyc #newyork #nycpsychologist #mentalhealthmatters #livebetter #mindbodysoul #selfcare #healthymasculinity #balance #growth #evolve #bewell #personaldevelopment #breakthesilence #breakthestigma #thoughts
Is there a psychological reason behind patriarchy? According to psychologist and feminist author/professor Carol Gilligan and Naomi Snider there is. Patriarchy has been created in the disconnection between humans and the detachment that creates is being replaced by materialism. Now the question becomes, can we change the destructive hierarchical and gender binary system into one that leads to more connection, empathy and repair among us? The answer is yes, and we all agree that is the key is simple. Love.  #masculinity #patriarchy #psychology #alwayslearning #evolving #loveistheanswer #gender #connection #attachment #healing #mentalhealth #materialism
Remember that every day is a chance to start again. Every day you can take that step. And every time you take even just one step you are getting closer. #mlk #selfgrowth #motivationmonday #keepgoing #perspective #onestepatatime #courage #therapy #mentalhealth #nyctherapist
Making positive changes always feel like the hardest thing ever because change is uncomfortable. But the only way to grow is to get outside your comfort zone by making consistent effort and staying focused on your goal. No it won’t be easy, but it is that simple. Keep taking steps every day and you will get there. You’re new life is waiting! #motivationmonday #mindsetshift #mindfulnessmonday #mindfulness #courage #breakthemold #selfgrowth #emotionalintelligence #happiness #newlife #takeoffthemask #perspective #keepgoing #igotyou #therapy #mentalwellness

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